Why Do Men Cheat? Ten Things Young Women Should Know About Dating, Page 2 of 3 - Associated Content from Yahoo! - associatedcontent.com

Why Do Men Cheat? Ten Things Young Women Should Know About Dating, Page 2 of 3 - Associated Content from Yahoo! - associatedcontent.com
1. Men cheat because they can. Men don't see "sex" the same way women do. They see it as a function that they have to have, particularly during the younger years. It takes a while before they attach the act to feelings they might have for a person. There can be hundreds of reasons why they cheat. It really doesn't matter, though. If you let them know they can cheat and get away with it...they will.

2. Men and Women Speak Different Languages. My young student asked me, "Why is it so hard for men to communicate"? They are communicating, just not in our language. Did you know that typically in the span of a few minutes women will speak almost five times the words that a man will speak in the same period? When it comes to communicating and understanding with guys, it's like we're speaking Japanese and they're speaking German. We won't understand each other until we both learn the language of the other.

3. Guys sleep with the "easy" girls because it's easy. Some of us can be "too much work". Most times a guy just wants to be with someone that doesn't take a lot of communicating and hard work in order to get the goods. There's nothing wrong with that, but if you are not the easy girl, then go for a guy who thinks you're great enough to put in the work. Simple.

4. Playing "games" is a part of relationships. Get used to it. What may seem like "playing games" is actually effective strategy. No guy wants a girl that is available ALL the time. No girl wants a guy that is needy or too wimpy. That's why sometimes we have to let that phone ring when he calls even though we are sitting there watching it ring. That's why sometimes a guy has to act like he has a life, even when he doesn't.


5. Guys lie because they don't want to get caught. Wow! Ok, sometimes a man will tell you that they lie because they really care about you and don't want you to dump them. In some cases it means they have no
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conscious. It's up to you to stay emotionally detached long enough to know the difference before you get too involved. I have a saying. Lies are like baby cock roaches. You can bet if you see one, even a little one, there are a bunch more where that one came from, and probably bigger ones! Lying is the biggest act of disrespect. Do you want to be disrespected?

6. EVERYBODY is NOT having sex. A lot of people are talking about it as if they are having it, but not everybody is having it. If you don't want to have it, then don't. If someone doesn't want to be with you because you don't want to have it, then let him walk!

7. SOME guys lose interest after they get it. It's called "the thrill of the chase". Some people are just more interested in chasing something and don't know quite what to do after they've caught it. It's not fun anymore. This is yet another reason why you need to stay emotionally detached until you know for sure the guy is for real....for real.

8. When a guy tells you who he is, believe him the FIRST time. One thing I have to say is that some guys are very up front and honest about who they are and where they are in their lives. Some girls don't "hear" what the guy is saying. When he tells you that he is not ready for a monogamous relationship, please believe it! Then don't get mad when you see him strolling around with someone else.

9. Stop trying to "understand" why guys are different. Just accept it. God made us the way He wanted us to be for good reason. That's the way it is. It won't change. Learn it, live it, love it.

10. There are some good guys out there. You just have to be patient and he will come when you least expect it. Just DO YOU, and you'll be a lot happier when he does finally show up.